I know that we touched on this in the previous blog, but I wanted to follow up with y’all – because I have some questions…
Do you make a New Years resolution every year? Or do you do it when you know something big needs to happen, or is going to happen? What motivates you to make a resolution?
Generally speaking, we make resolutions to change something about ourselves. Something like a habit – whether it’s creating a better one or putting an end to a bad one. A trait – like patience or devotion. Or a mindset – how we think about ourselves, or how we think about others; possibly both. Or maybe you want to change how you react in different, or specific, situations. Are you a glass half full, or half empty kind of person?
And WHY do we feel the need to make resolutions on New Years, instead of monthly, or quarterly? Why, with a new year, is there this pressure for a “new you”.
#NewYearNewMe or #NewYearSameShit – that is the question. And it’s a really good one…
Honestly, how many people actually stick to their New Years resolution(s)? Drum roll please………. …… ………. ……. ……..
Only around 8%.
8% of us are successful at achieving, and sticking to our New Years resolution(s). And yet, the majority of us continue to make them year after year. Telling ourselves, “This year is going to be different!”
Only it usually isn’t.
The best advice I read in the article above is K.I.S.S. > Keep It Simple Stupid (they chose to leave the last “S” out for some silly reason). According to psychologist Lynn Bufka it is also a smarter move to set “small, attainable goals throughout the year, rather than a singular, overwhelming goal…” Bufka then adds, “Remember, it is not the extent of the change that matters, but rather the act of recognizing that lifestyle change is important and working toward it, one step at a time.”
A.K.A. baby steps…
Which, I don’t know about you – it I’m kinda horrible at baby steps. I tend to get wrapped up in the end goal, when I should be focusing on multiple “mini goals”, if you will, that lead to the accomplishment of the end goal.
It’s something I’m aware of, and working on, but I haven’t made a New Years resolution in years. I honestly don’t remember the last time I made one, as I tend to make resolutions throughout the year. Personally, I’ve found that I’m more successful at achieving said resolutions, or goals, if there’s not the New Year “new me” pressure that we tend to put on one another.
A good example is that currently, my boyfriend and I are not drinking alcohol. We are giving our livers a break from January 2nd – January 27th (the 27th we leave for vacation).
However, honestly – we have broken this pack twice together. Once on his brother’s birthday, and once when I signed a contract for a new job. Celebratory causes (not that I’m making excuses).
And although we may have broken our sobriety pledge, we didn’t drink for a week the first time before we broke it. So, that is a mini goal to be excited about! And now, we are back on the “no drinking” wagon.
Change is never a comfortable word, let alone a comfortable act.
Let’s get REAL about our fear of change.
Let’s get uncomfortable and start putting smaller actions in place that lead to bigger differences.