Recently I wrote a blog about relationships and expectations that we set for ourselves when we believe certain wheels have been set in motion. But, we set expectations for ourselves in multiple areas of our lives. In doing so, are we setting ourselves up for failure? Are we creating unreasonable, or unattainable, ideals?
Everyone goes through moments where they question themselves. Whether it’s about work, or relationships or life in general. Am I in the right industry? Am I settling? Am I happy? Do I know what I’m doing? What am I doing?
So many questions – and they are valid questions. I don’t know about you, but I will agonize over a decision sometimes. We are given these choices to make that can seriously impact our lives – no matter what decision we end up making. There are consequences for every choice – good and bad. So, we agonize about making these choices and decisions because we have this “ideal” life, or job, or relationship schema in our heads that we are trying to build up to. This expectation of what, and who we want to be.
We are constantly searching for “happy” like it’s a destination. Happiness is a journey, and it isn’t a constant state. Happiness will come and go, and we need to be able to accept that as part of life – but we have such a hard time doing that!
There is nothing wrong with having high expectations, but just know that if you do (like I do) more than likely you will be disappointed – many times. By others, by yourself, by the world… People who have high expectations hold themselves, and others, to a higher standard – and not everyone is capable of meeting said standard. And that’s ok too, but you need to be aware of that.
Awareness is key, awareness is strength, awareness is positive.
If you have high expectations, good for you! But, don’t allow those expectations to rule your life either. Not everything is always going to be perfect – but that doesn’t mean it can’t be wonderful 🙂
Let’s get REAL about what paths our expectations lead us down.
Let’s get uncomfortable and find a way to accept our expectations instead of allowing them to entrap us.