Uncomfortable: Relationships | Getting Back On The Horse

So clearly, this is something that has been prevalent on my mind as of late. I’ve been single for about 6 months now, and the idea of entering the dating pool again is somewhat terrifying. And I’m sure many of you feel the same way…
I’ve dipped my toe here and there, but I haven’t made the full on plunge yet. 

I’m ready to, ready to have a significant other again, a better half if you will, but the stories I hear from other single friends aren’t necessarily encouraging.
The games that people insist on playing, getting “ghosted” – which happened to me for the first time over the summer, and was not necessarily fun O_o

How do you meet people now? We aren’t 21 anymore, not going out all the time and partying it up, meeting random people and making a bunch of “friends”.

Dating apps in general kind of suck and can be a total time suck if nothing else.
Meeting people through friends is an option, but most of my friends who are wifed up hang with other couples mostly, so more often than not I get to be the 3rd, or 5th wheel. Which is fine, because I enjoy my time with these awesome friends, don’t get me wrong – but it severely limits the dating pool.

I don’t have all the answers and I don’t pretend to, so if anyone can offer a lifeline to these questions, please do! We live in such  a different world today, and as a woman I am thankful for that. Thankful that we are able to be part of the workforce and are able to create our own paths.
That being said, having a career does not make dating any easier either. Between work, life outside of work, and our digital dating era, I don’t know about you, but I feel smooshed in the middle of it all sometimes.

I’ve been so focused on making a career and enjoying the time I have to be selfish, that a relationship has not been my primary focus or main concern.
I highly doubt I’d be able to do the NPC competitions working full time with a family (if I had one now). So, by no means am I upset that I don’t have a family yet, or a serious relationship, but there have been sacrifices made on both sides of the spectrum. And many of you are probably in the same boat, or a similar one. Feeling like you have to choose between a career and a relationship or family.

I am thankful for my career and for the freedom I currently have, but now, that I am more accomplished, confident, and know what I bring to the table, I’m ready to have someone meet me there. Not like I’m getting any younger over here…
Any suggestions on the best way to get back on the horse? ❤

I’m trying a dating app, but is it realistic to think a relationship could come from that?? What are fair expectations for my love life if I am depending on an app to find a partner? What are yours? Do you think they are fair, and/or realistic?

Meeting people through mutual friends is still the preferred way to go, and I’m giving that a shot as well 🙂 Guess we will find out what proves to be fruitful.
So many questions!

Let’s get REAL about our expectations when it comes to love and life.
Let’s get uncomfortable and truly offer some vulnerability… (I know – catching feelings is like a disease now!)

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