No one likes to admit when they’re wrong. It’s this human instinct we possess to protect ourselves from the hurt, from the bad that may ensue after we make a mistake. So, because of this, we have a legitimate issue when it comes to owning our mistakes, our flaws, our imperfections. And everyone has them; but it is so much easier for us to point out the flaws in others than it is for us to take a good hard look at ourselves.
So why? Why do we naturally have a desire to protect ourselves from, well, ourselves??… and the truth of the matter is – we aren’t doing anyone any favors by not taking ownership of our errors, or of our poor traits.
That’s something I’ve had to come to terms with lately. I was snapping at people and being short tempered for no specific reason – when that isn’t traditionally “me”.
My mom started calling me on my attitude, “It’s the delivery” she told me, not necessarily what I say, but how I say it.
Initially, I was defensive. It’s an instinct, right? But after I gave it a minute and took a step back, I was like – shoot, she’s right.
“I’m sorry Mom. I didn’t mean to come across like that.”
I made the choice to own my mistake instead of run from it, because running from it isn’t going to change the fact that I’ve been doing it lately. Running from my error isn’t going to change the way I make people feel when I talk to them like that. Running from my flaw isn’t going to allow me to stimulate growth within myself.
And it is difficult, no change or realization about your own poor behavior is ever comfortable. If it was comfortable, we would have more people pushing the boundaries everyday!
But that is what change, and growth are all about. Making us uncomfortable. If you are comfortable with your downfalls, or your bad behavior then I guess this is a blog you don’t need to worry about reading.
But, I challenge you. I challenge each and every one of you to find at least one, if not two or three, areas in your life that you could work on improving.
Patience is what I’m working on. Being more aware of my delivery is what I’m challenging myself with.
Because only through awareness of our own faults, and acceptance of them, can we change them, and therefore change ourselves.
I don’t know about you, but I definitely want to be the best version of myself that I can be.
Let’s get REAL about our imperfections.
Let’s get uncomfortable and start taking ownership of our mistakes and of our flaws.