The first thing people say to you when things aren’t going well, or right, is, “have faith”… What exactly am I supposed to have faith in? In Yahweh? In a higher power? In Allāh? In Buddha? There are so many ideals and beliefs in this world that it’s hard to decide what to have faith in. Faith isn’t tangible, you can’t see it, touch it, or taste it – which is part of what makes having faith so hard.
But, “have faith” is the first thing we are told when we need something or someone to lean on.
Have faith, it’ll all work out. Have faith, everything happens for a reason. Have faith, you may not understand now, but you will see later.
Ughhhhhhhh!!!!!!! Sometimes those phrases drive me absolutely bonkers… And if you do have faith in a higher power, that’s great. If you don’t, that’s fine too – I’m not here to judge, merely to start the conversation…
The most important “being” to have faith in, every day, not just in times of hardship – is yourself.
Faith that you can get through whatever you need to get through to make it to where you need to go. I met a remarkable young lady last night, that has a beautiful two-month-old baby girl. She didn’t use an epidural for the birth and she used a midwife instead of a doctor – talk about #ThrowbackThursday … I gave her props beyond props because that’s not something I would ever consider. She said she chose to have a natural child birth because she knew if she could get through that, she could get through anything. That is some #girlpower right there.
We concern ourselves so much with what other people think, that we question ourselves too often. We question our decisions and our choices. We question our faith in ourselves and the ability we have to make the “right” decision regarding our own lives.
Before we buy something, 81% of us will do online research and we will visit three stores before making said purchase… and that’s a decision we make where, more often than not, the item is returnable. We don’t get to return the choices we make in our lives and no amount of “research” is going to make you feel better if it’s a hard decision. So TRUST yourself, have FAITH in yourself, that you are making the right decision.
Let’s get REAL about how much we rely on others in our decision making process.
Let’s get uncomfortable and have faith in ourselves, before doubt.
Also check out my: Uncomfortable: Why is Being Honest so Hard? blog for more uncomfortable conversations relating to this topic.