Uncomfortable: Raw Beauty | Chillin with No Makeup on

We are told that we need to be “dimes” all the time. That our hair and makeup have to be perfect. That we can’t have an ounce of fat on us. That our outfit better be “on point”. Why? Because society has said so? Beauty is beauty, everyone is beautiful in their own way – and raw beauty is b-e-a-uuuuutiful. Continue reading “Uncomfortable: Raw Beauty | Chillin with No Makeup on”

Uncomfortable: What Are We Saying to Our Daughters When We Tell Them to “Put some clothes on”?

So, there are two main schools of thought on this:
a. We are telling our daughters to respect their bodies and respect themselves
b. We are telling our daughters that boys/men can’t always control theirselves – so they (our daughters) need to dress appropriately as to not gain improper or unwanted  attention Continue reading “Uncomfortable: What Are We Saying to Our Daughters When We Tell Them to “Put some clothes on”?”

Uncomfortable: Dating | 3 Things You Should NEVER Do When You’re Hitting on a Woman

Ladies, how many times have you gotten hit on and thought, “Does that ever actually work for you?”… Lame pick up lines, cat calling, not knowing how to talk to a woman – let alone have a genuine conversation that doesn’t just scream, “HEY!! I’m trying to get in your pants!!!!” Guys (or gals), here’s 3 things you should NEVER do when you’re hitting on the female species 🙂 Continue reading “Uncomfortable: Dating | 3 Things You Should NEVER Do When You’re Hitting on a Woman”

Uncomfortable: Parenting | My Mom the Superwoman – Holding Down the Fort while Dad Played Pilot

Behind every great man, is an even greater woman. And that Superwoman, is my Mom.
While my Dad was being a Professional Badass (see Uncomfortable: My Dad the Professional Badass – Growing up with a Lieutenant Colonel), my Mom was the one holding down the fort with two kids. And for any woman who has done this, you know it’s not always an easy task. Continue reading “Uncomfortable: Parenting | My Mom the Superwoman – Holding Down the Fort while Dad Played Pilot”

Uncomfortable: Your “First Love” and What that Relationship Teaches You (Part1)

So, my first real relationship was when I was a Junior in High School. We had been friends for a while, and initially we had planned on being “friends with benefits” (sorry Mom and Dad). But, the more we got to know each other the more we liked each other – go figure – and that lead us down the yellow brick road to (theme music please) da-da-da-naaaa: dating.

The 5 most important things I learned from that relationship are as follows: Continue reading “Uncomfortable: Your “First Love” and What that Relationship Teaches You (Part1)”

Uncomfortable: Having Faith – In what Exactly?

The first thing people say to you when things aren’t going well, or right, is, “have faith”… What exactly am I supposed to have faith in? In Yahweh? In a higher power? In Allāh? In Buddha? There are so many ideals and beliefs in this world that it’s hard to decide what to have faith in. Faith isn’t tangible, you can’t see it, touch it, or taste it – which is part of what makes having faith so hard.
But, “have faith” is the first thing we are told when we need something or someone to lean on.
Have faith, it’ll all work out. Have faith, everything happens for a reason. Have faith, you may not understand now, but you will see later.

Ughhhhhhhh!!!!!!! Sometimes those phrases drive me absolutely bonkers… And if you do have faith in a higher power, that’s great. If you don’t, that’s fine too – I’m not here to judge, merely to start the conversation…
The most important “being” to have faith in, every day, not just in times of hardship – is yourself. Continue reading “Uncomfortable: Having Faith – In what Exactly?”

Uncomfortable: 5 Signs She’s Just Not that into You

You may or may not be the one lighting her fire; dating can be truly difficult and confusing. Most people play games and signals are getting harder and harder to read. But here’s 5 signs that she’s really, just not that into you… Continue reading “Uncomfortable: 5 Signs She’s Just Not that into You”